Tears and anger may come from adrenalin : “IT is not uncommon that at times of stress, with higher than normal levels of circulating adrenalin in the body, one reaction is emotional lability (the technical term for being particularly sensitive).”
When you get angry you can feel the adrenalin and the worst thing is when you get angry and you have to bottle it up. You then have to find a way to work off the adrenalin and the whole thing can leave you drained. Far better to learn not to react and not get angry. Sometimes it’s better to wonder whether it’s worth getting angry. If you are right there is no need to get angry and if you are wrong you have no right to get angry. Sometimes you just need to blow off a head of steam. That can work okay if you have people who understand that’s all it is. It is when you get really angry. It’s important to learn how to manage that so that you are not creating wear and tear on your own system and so your anger is not misplaced. The worse thing is when you become so angry you want to cry. it makes you feel silly because you are inarticulate and you cannot speak properly and that, in turn , makes you feel even more useless! I have a fiend and she and I can both feel like this when we think a gross injustice has occurred. Then we cannot talk about it properly. She and I have helped each other a lot and that’s what you need. Someone who will listen and who can talk you through the steps to rebalance yourself.