Controlling Anger Before it Controls You: “Angry people tend to curse, swear, or speak in highly colorful terms that reflect their inner thoughts.”
For the second day in a row I ended up talking someone through their misplaced anger. Misplaced because they were actually right but couldn’t see their way through to negotiating the rightness of what was occurring because they were so angry and they just wanted to blow everything up…including themselves. I can get angry but I have learned not to let it damage me. There is no point. This site starts to point you in the right direction and it’s important that angry people start to understand that the anger is a problem when it neither furthers them nor their position..that it is, in fact doing them and others harm. I think we need to get better at dealing with our own anger and the anger of others. Shutting an angry person down is not always the answer but you do have to contain yourself and others so that people can think and so that people do not get out of hand. I think we have tended to say it cannot occur and we shouldn’t be angry and then angry people just get away with their behaviour because no one knows how to deal with it except say it’s not acceptable. The article is right…angry people do jump to conclusions and it’s the way they think which gets them thinking like that. It’s often about heroes and villains…once you talk to them and get them calmer they can often see where the problem lies. This article is a great start. We need more of it.