It has always been difficult to deal with emotional abuse and to get others to deal with it. We have come a long way with physical abuse, neglect and sexual abuse. We have confronted them, brought them into the spotlight and found ways of dealing with them even though we feel totally inadequate at times. Abuse is not easy to deal with. It is part of the abuse cycle that those being abused do not want to confront or “betray” the abusers. Shame is rampant and holds us back. So, for a long time now we have been dealing with what used to be called mental cruelty. It has raised its ugly head on the internet as cyberbullying. Even then there is always the belief that somehow the victim asked for it or deserved it. Somehow we feel powerless. Dealing with abuse means you have to understand the motivations of the perpertrator, because often they have been abused in the same way. Then you have to look at ways of allowing peole to deal with it and one of our best ways is to get it out into the open. Let people talk about it. Then we have to find ways of stopping it. Always we shall feel like we are not doing very well, but it is not a reason to give up trying. Two articles have come out recently which give heart. France
has brought in laws to outlaw psychological violence and even though the article does not say much, it at least alerts us to the fact that they are taking action on emotional abuse and we can follow it up. Australia
is trying to deal with the derogatory comments which come up on Facebook under their stalking laws. There are more of us than there are of them. There are more good people and we need to work together to keep people safe and stable. Our thinking approach will only help.