Posted in acts of kindness, be kind, happiness, positive attitude, positive mindset, positive thinking, resilience, slow living

Acts of kindness generator

acts of kindnessMost people are kind. There are a few who are not but the vast majority of the human race is considerate and kind. You get busy , though or stressed or preoccupied and kindness just doesn’t flow as easily as when you are relaxed. Shari’s Berries blog has a random act of kindness generator which can be used in so many ways. You can click it and get a random . You can focus on just family or just work colleagues. You can also download the whole list of acts of kindness and you could customise it to suit your mood and how you want be. You could create challenges. They really make you feel good. I did one last year and some of it was actually hard but I learned so much and it was just a positive contribution to my life even though I was the one doing the acts of kindness. It works. It creates a well world and a well you.

Posted in ageing positively, exercise, Food, gardening, happiness, healthy habits, herbs, nature, positive attitude, wellbeing

Grow your own veggies

The Little Veggie Patch Co are good at getting people growing! Their approach is based on doable ideas , a straight forward approach and then upcycling where they can. They have approached gardening in a very visual way. Their book, the 1-Minute Gardening is a photo book with text which gives you tips and ideas. I was lucky enough to get a copy of it as a present for the Christmas before last. The main point to this video is you can grow vegetables anywhere. You do not need a huge amount of space. In one of my  homes  I was growing veggies in the wall box on the front patio while I was setting up a big veggie patch in the back garden. In my current home I am rejuvenating my veggie patch and growing some veggies and herbs in pots . Parsley grows around my back garden. It’s green, attractive and can make a nice pot plant! I like to have fresh herbs and I like to have fresh vegetables. I have mixed success with the vegetables but I never give up. I grow silverbeet and potatoes because they always work and fresh potatoes are lovely. Grow what you can because even if you don’t immediately become successful it is a very relaxing activity and gets you outside. There is a lot of evidence now that gardening has a good impact on your health and wellbeing.

Posted in community, coping, happiness, interpersonal relationships, nature, parenting, slow living

Winter Wheat

Winter WheatMildred Walker was a very well credentialed writer who was also a creative writing teacher who dies at the age of 93 in Oregon. Her novel is about Montana where she had lived for a long time. There is no sex, no drugs , no violence and no drama. It’s a slice of life and about Montana. It held me captive for the whole time I was reading it because it was so sane and normal. It was about a young girl growing into a young woman who was discovering what love meant and who was living her life in Montana. You come to understand the rhythm of life in Montana in 1941 and you get to be a part of that life as you read the book. You can see and feel the change of seasons. You come to love the farm and the slow lifestyle. People are living rather than being entertained, stimulated or diverted. They are battling the elements and relishing the small things in life. It is such a contrast to how we are living now. The descriptions are vivid and the experiences are very real. It is not ramped up, artificial or confected. It’s life and the descriptions allow a full appreciation of the experiences in a place like Montana just before WWII. I loved being an invited guest there.

Posted in abuse, anxiety, happiness, interpersonal relationships, positive self talk, stress, toxic people, workplace health

Emotional abuse

Emotional abuse is very difficult to identify and even more difficult to prove. It’s sly, underhanded, artful and calculated. It’s important to know it is happening to you and it is important to notice it might be happening to someone else. Emotional abusers often have their reasons. It that awful cycle of abuse where you have been abused and you become the abuser. Emotional abuse can occur in the home , at work, from society at large …people. Unless we are clear about what it is and how to manage it then victims will continue to suffer. It can have dire consequences. A person can be so robbed of themselves, their hopes and dreams until they are in despair and dysfunctional. The worst thing is they have nothing to show anyone. Just what they think and how they feel. It has to be stopped like any other form of abuse and knowledge is power. The image straightens it out in people’s head. It helps clarify what is going on. There are some excellent sites which identify emotional abuse behaviour and symptoms. It is something we can deal with if we get the awareness out there as we have done with so many other things. Healthy Place looks at the short and long term effects of emotional abuse.

Pinterest also has some good help.

Posted in care, cheer, creating success, happiness, homelessness, positive attitude, positive images, positive mindset, Society and Culture, teeth, wellbeing

#reKindleKindness

This is a well constructed, well thought out, powerful video. It almost had me in tears. Not because it was soppy. Not because it was tugging on heartstrings but because you could see and feel the impact of human kindness. People are homeless for all sorts of reasons. In my lifetime what were a couple of so called vagrants about the place now and again has become a regular encounter with people who are homeless. There are children going to school from cars. There are people sleeping in doorways and anywhere else just to get shelter. Not just here. Not just there . It is a global problem and some are doing it worse than others. There is no easy answer but the video points out quite clearly the value of a hug, a smile, a bit of a break. Someone who will reach out to the homeless and treat them as a human beings who need recognition and nurturing. We cannot solve everyone’s problems. Some are there as a philosphical choice. Some are there because of  lifestyle choices. Some are there because they are mentally ill and there was a decision to let them fend for themselves. All sorts of reasons. You can see most of them have lost teeth and that is the same everywhere. You can see most of them are thin. Worldwide they have the same look. We have made a difference by looking at ways and means of ensuring they have food and drink, warm clothes and blankets and sometimes a safe place to sleep. On one French news programme I watched a couple of years ago they had a place where they took people in for the night to get them out of excessive heat or cold. They could not take everyone but it was a start. One man just was so angry. The person in charge was very good at trying to de-escalate his anger and to get him to be calm. He succeeded but then the man became very aggressive again. In the end he was given a blanket and asked to leave so the others could rest and have some respite. It is a difficult thing to live and a difficult thing to be a helper. The video shows us not to give up on ourselves or them. Just to do simple human things which will make a difference. To be kind. Just be kind. In the two years since this video has been made the world has been kinder. We just need to keep reminding ourselves.

Posted in Children, children's activities, curiosity, Early childhood, exercise, happiness, positive attitude, positive mindset, positive thinking, wellbeing

Lila Kalis

Lila is quite amazing. She is tiny but very natural and confident. You can see she loves what she is doing and very good at it. Young children can be taught to master things at a very early age. They love things like skiing and swimming but Lila Kalis likes drifting. Her Dad has supported her willingness to learn and she has shown just how normal it is for a child to do something which involves skill and action. I am wondering why she doesn’t need a helmet but maybe those little cars are very stable? Her father knows a lot about these things and so does the driver who was working with her. Not work. They were playing together ! They were having fun and doing something skilled and demanding without it seeming like it. The father said he was not pressuring her and you get the impression he really isn’t. His daughter probably loves what she is doing because he loves what he is doing. Passion for something is infectious.

Posted in happiness, optimism, positive mindset, positive thinking

I’m 35 and never had a girlfriend

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The article in the Guardian about never having a girlfriend or boyfriend and you are in your 30s is probably more of a problem than people would care to admit. I am blogging about it because the comments were bizarre, to say the least, and then just plain unhelpful. There was someone I knew who was in exactly that predicament. She had been at school, uni, work and still there was no special someone. She had managed a couple of times to have one evening with someone and then that was that. Some of it was she was not a drinker and most people drink these days. She didn’t especialy like parties and just diverting herself with amusements. Her working hours were very long and she often had to work weekends. She went out with friends when she could. She went on holidays when she could. She tried to make things happen when she could. You just have to be with people and go on holidays and keep your family life going. She wasn’t gay but she got a lot of support and comfort from her gay friends. She did not put up barriers to outings and events even if she didn’t think she would much like them. In the end , it was one of her school friends on Facebook that broke the ice in relationships. She went to visit him in another state but he wasn’t that easy to get along with. She tried it again the following year and he let her down very badly and she was in a situation where she had to decide whether to stay interstate in an emotional mess or come home. She toughed it out. She made  a point of doing nice things each day. In the meantime someone at work was texting her to help her stabilise . He was being a good friend. A great friend. He knew what it was like to be viciously let down by someone. Even though she had never thought much about him before, she realised this was a really fantastic person to have in her life. So she was in her 30s and now she had this really nice guy and they have been together ever since. You just don’t know. You just have to be places doing things. One of my Mum’s friends didn’t marry until he was 40. He just couldn’t find anyone and then he found his lovely wife and they had a great marriage. Same for my neighbours. They did not meet until he was 40 and she wasn’t that keen on him but had agreed to go out with him just once. They have been inseparable and my neighbour inherited the best family ever. Be there. Do things and be honest with people. Be yourself and make an effort to be a happy self who likes doing things.From my observation I can see this works. 
Posted in cheer, happiness, kindness, life, positive attitude, positive thinking

Life is beautiful

The Life is Beautiful blog has some really cheering images and things to think about. It is a nice blog to visit when you just want to feel good, feel better or keep the positives going. In an acquisitive society we take a lot for granted and forget that some of the most important and valuable things in our life are free. They are the things which can sustain us, inspire us and make us feel better.