Emotional abuse is very difficult to identify and even more difficult to prove. It’s sly, underhanded, artful and calculated. It’s important to know it is happening to you and it is important to notice it might be happening to someone else. Emotional abusers often have their reasons. It that awful cycle of abuse where you have been abused and you become the abuser. Emotional abuse can occur in the home , at work, from society at large …people. Unless we are clear about what it is and how to manage it then victims will continue to suffer. It can have dire consequences. A person can be so robbed of themselves, their hopes and dreams until they are in despair and dysfunctional. The worst thing is they have nothing to show anyone. Just what they think and how they feel. It has to be stopped like any other form of abuse and knowledge is power. The image straightens it out in people’s head. It helps clarify what is going on. There are some excellent sites which identify emotional abuse behaviour and symptoms. It is something we can deal with if we get the awareness out there as we have done with so many other things. Healthy Place looks at the short and long term effects of emotional abuse.
Pinterest also has some good help.
I was reading on Facebook how someone had deleted 2000 emails and felt well pleased with themselves. It is getting out of hand and email is starting to swamp all of us. Some of us have moved to the social media sites which make communicating far simpler and more effective. We get emails from work, family , friends, subscriptions, stores, accounts. Spam is being dealt with effectively but now we are spammed by lifestyle. Everyone wants your email and then when you get all those emails you can spend a big chunk of time trying to get around to all the emails. Most people run different email accounts for different purposes and then they get muddled because you can’t always streamline it that easily and then people get cranky because you didn’t reply because it was just an email. Email used to be easy. Not any more. I have separate email accounts – two for work, one for my blogs and online things and a private one. It’s taking too much time and it is just a horrible chore now. I have signed up for news letters I want but they get buried in other things which are buried in newsletters. I don’t like it any more and if we are deleting hundreds of unread emails, I’d say we have a problem we need to change. Social media is direct and that sort of communication is limited and easier to manage. Facebook gives you the option of writing more if you want to. We are going to have to do something.