Posted in abuse, anxiety, happiness, interpersonal relationships, positive self talk, stress, toxic people, workplace health

Emotional abuse

Emotional abuse is very difficult to identify and even more difficult to prove. It’s sly, underhanded, artful and calculated. It’s important to know it is happening to you and it is important to notice it might be happening to someone else. Emotional abusers often have their reasons. It that awful cycle of abuse where you have been abused and you become the abuser. Emotional abuse can occur in the home , at work, from society at large …people. Unless we are clear about what it is and how to manage it then victims will continue to suffer. It can have dire consequences. A person can be so robbed of themselves, their hopes and dreams until they are in despair and dysfunctional. The worst thing is they have nothing to show anyone. Just what they think and how they feel. It has to be stopped like any other form of abuse and knowledge is power. The image straightens it out in people’s head. It helps clarify what is going on. There are some excellent sites which identify emotional abuse behaviour and symptoms. It is something we can deal with if we get the awareness out there as we have done with so many other things. Healthy Place looks at the short and long term effects of emotional abuse.

Pinterest also has some good help.

Posted in happiness, toxic people, wellbeing

Toxic People

Realize that toxic people can drain your health, energy, well being and sanity. It helps to move away from toxic people and move towards people who are positive and uplifting. Positive people are a blessing.
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I had never heard of the expression “toxic” person before, but I saw it on the Net and explored further and it makes sense to me to call some people that. They make you feel toxic like foods which are bad for you or chemicals which you inhale. They put your system on overload, make you fell ill and all wrong and have a bad impact. This particular article sums it up really well, explains it well and offers suggestions of how to deal with people like that. it is much harder in the work place to avoid people who are toxic because you and they are often confined or forced to work together. It is really tricky. The tendency is always to blame yourself and even when you do realise someone is having a bad impact on you, extricating yourself from that is mighty difficult. It’s the nature of the beast. The mental detachment suggested in the article is hard to come by but it is what works. You have to keep working on it and staying level headed and light spirited until you dispel the toxicity and create a barrier of light. It’s the detachment I find really hard. I need more ideas as to how to achieve that. I have improved but I still get swamped sometimes.